“I now pronounce you Husband and Wife”! As you hear these last few words on the altar of your wedding day, you are at the happiest place (or at least should be) with your spouse.
So the question becomes: How do I keep this feeling and make this covenant work hence” How to get away with Marriage!”
The fact of the matter is that you won’t always have this feeling of bliss. There will be some days where you may just think, “WHY DID I GET MARRIED?” However, this should not Alter the Altar moment.
Simply stated as you stood on that altar, you were in it to win it and were not thinking of an expiration date for your marriage.
Let’s be real, there are many distractions to get you off your square and away from marital bliss….BUT There is one simple statement of action that you need to keep in the forefront to make this marriage last: (STAY FOCUSED).
This sounds good but what does it all mean? When you Favor something, you set it as a priority! Let’s put it this way – When you go to a restaurant and you are seated, the host/hostess come to take your order and you tell him/her what you want. They don’t just “Serve” you what they think you should have.
As in marriage, as you get to know each other, you are entrusted to serve each other. And in order to serve each other, you need to know what your spouse want and what he/she like (Communication). It’s easy to become selfish and get caught in our feelings and give our spouse only what we want them to have.
As far as the marriage being Christ-centered, think of the Bible as the menu– knowing that anything you serve from here will be done with LOVE and the right attitude.
We’ve all heard or read some of the key factors in making a marriage/partnership work; Love, communication, respect, friendship, trust, compromise, understanding, gratitude, forgiveness, honesty (I just wanted to refresh everyone’s memory), are a few.
But, is there something more that plays a key role in making a marriage work? Could our differences, that thing that attracted you to your partner, that thing that’s not in your character be a key component in making it work?
In the movie Jerry Maguire, Tom Cruises’ character told Renee’ Zellweger’s character, “You complete me”. There has been much discussion on what that phrase means, and usually it’s negative. We make comments like, “I don’t need a man to complete me”, “I can take care of myself; “I’m a strong woman”. That may be true, but the other side of the coin is, we all have character strengths and weaknesses.
Stop for a moment and think about what attracted you to your significant other. Now think about what characteristic makes you want to drop them off at the nearest airport with a one way ticket to anywhere you’re not. Ok sorry, flashback, but you understand, it’s their strengths, (your weakness) that trait they possess, that thing that attracted you to them, and the same thing that makes you so annoyed…, that thing that’s said to come back and bite you in your relationship bliss, because it can tear you apart.
If we do a self-assessment of who we are and what characteristics attracted us to our partner, the reason we wanted to hang with them, why we stayed on the phone for two and three hours, talking and laughing sometimes falling asleep, we’ll come up with an interesting conclusion, I know I did. If we are honest with ourselves and each other we will take this new insight (for some) and work it to our relationship advantage and grow.
So, now you are together, your strengths, their strengths, your weaknesses, their weaknesses; two incomplete people searching for love and as quiet as its kept, completion. The formula looks like this, you + me = a dynamic union. Our combined abilities give us the strength to handle (conquer, start, finish, learn, do) things we couldn’t do on our own. In relationships we work together for a common goal, to love and care for each other. We can encourage, strengthen and empower each other by incorporating the key factors of marriage, as well as using our differences in a positive manner.
Don’t give up!! Don’t get distracted! Don’t become discouraged! We know that you can get away with Marriage!! Let’s be the positive example of LOVE that the world needs to see.